Kick it in: What to do when the performer next to you just doesn't care?
Wednesday, October 02, 2013

Kick it in: What to do when the performer next to you just doesn't care?

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Today's guest post is from Fran Kick, professional speaker, author and division head of the Leadership Weekend Experience at the Music for All Summer Symposium presented by Yamaha. Fran Kick also co-presents the Future Music Educators' Experience during the Grand National Championships.

What to do when the performer next to you just doesn't care?

AttitudeisEverything

 There's at least one in every band. The student who just seems to be going through the motions. Sometimes mumbling to his or her section “I’m just not into this today. Rehearsal sucks. It’s too hot today. It’s too cold today. Something’s wrong with my instrument” (and all the other variations on a theme of whining, griping, moaning, groaning, wondering why they’re having a terrible time). 

Notice how the entire focus of their complaining always seems to surround themselves. Or blaming other things for the fact that they’re not “into it.”

Rather than concentrating and paying attention, they’re complaining and perhaps attracting attention, certainly distracting others from paying attention, and in general making – and sometimes causing – more mistakes in rehearsal. 

What can you do to make a difference? Well short of kicking them out of band, which in truth isn’t a very good idea. Whether they’re the worst player or the best player, we need everyone in band. 

Besides, they might not always be this way. It’s just not their day. Think about it; They may have failed a test in class. Forgot their lunch, had to buy, and it was Sloppy Joe day in lunch lady land. Who knows, but we’ve all been there. Stuff happens outside of rehearsal that impacts even the best of us and especially the worst of us. 

Of course the trick is not letting it affect us. Allow band to be an escape from all THAT and focus on making music and movement that mentally brings us to a higher place above all the riff-raff, the hassles we have, the day to day thick of thin things. 

But what about that person next to you in your section who just doesn’t seem to care? How can you help?  Well here are three things you can do: 

#1 – Nothing! That’s right, ignore them. Don’t give them any attention. If we know that what gets attention gets repeated, then the last thing you want to do is pay them off with your attention. It only reinforces their negative behavior and you do NOT want them having “another bad day.”

 #2 – Ask them a performance related question. Say something like:

“Hey, I’m just checking – what count do our horns go to the press box?

When does that crescendo start? Where is our left hand when we finish that dance sequence.”

Now, you might already know the answer, but it’s a good way to distract them from their bad day and focus their thoughts on something rehearsal specific.

Do be careful when you ask them – while your director is talking would not be a good time – walking back to “do it again” would be better.

 #3 – Be sure to be the band member you’d want them to be. If actions speak louder than words, don’t get sucked into their negativity. Be the example, the role model, the leader who makes things happen and always KICKs IT IN!

 
 This post was originally released on the “Break Ranks” podcast with Dan Potter. The .mp3 audio file is available to hear, download, and share.

 

Fran Kick currently serves as division head of the Music for All Summer Symposium Leadership Weekend Experience. He is a nationally-recognized speaker and educational consultant who talks with students and the many people who work with them. You can find more information about his work with music-related organizations and events at http://www.kickitin.com/music/

Erin Fortune

Erin Fortune is the Director of Sponsorships at Music for All and has been working with Music for All since 2010, first in the Participant Relations department, followed by the marketing department as Marketing Manager, and is now in advancement. She is a graduate of the Music Industry Management program at Ferris State University in Michigan and is a former Percussive Arts Society Intern and a Yamaha Corporation of America, Band and Orchestral Division Intern.

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